Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Winners of my Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013

Well, the wait is finally over. After more than a month of voting, we have our winners for my inaugural Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013. A big congratulations to all of them!

Our overall champion is none other than Beefrib Ben from Taipei, Taiwan. He is the perfect specimen of an Asian Muscle Bear with a huge body and a well proportion thunder thighs and monster calves. In addition, what makes him stand out from his competitor is his cute and good looking face!

The first runner-up goes to Asher Wu from Shanghai, China. This young muscle bear is definitely a favourite since the beginning of the competition.

And in third position is, Chibi Hiro. This muscle bear is from Shinjuku-ku, Tokyo, Japan. With a cute face and well proportion body, he definitely deserves a place in the top three.

Until the next Asian Muscle Bear Awards in 2014, this is Jimen signing out! Be happy always, cheers!

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Man to Man or Man to Men Sex?

Open relationship? (pic from http://www.fridae.asia)

Regardless of your opinion whether being gay is congenital or nurtured, one question that always bogs me; are we really that different in terms of our sexual quest from our straight counterparts? Do we put sex above everything else? The constant need to justify of our sexual wants despite our status of being single, attached or even married? Is polygamy an accepted way in how we live our lives within our community or is it a convenient excuse for us to satisfy our sexual urges?
I am a zoologist or at least that’s what I studied during my university education although I’m no longer in practice. In the animal kingdom, most male species follow the polygamous way of conjugation and according to the great Darwin’s justification is the need for the male species to spread their seeds as far as and to as many as possible, in short, survival of the fittest. Of course there are exceptions such as the fat-tailed dwarf lemur and the Malagasy giant jumping rat. The amazing fact is that these two animals are truly monogamous. But as human are we truly monogamous or are we monogamish?
Malagasy giant jumping rat (pic from http://www.edgeofexistence.org)
If according to mammalian theory, human beings aren't really that monogamous. On the other hand, most of us also do not exhibit a true, no holds barred polygamous lifestyle. I think the right word to describe us is that we're monogamish; the in-between-ness of monogamous and polygamous.
Monogamy, a moral choice? (pic from http://www.samesame.com.au)
The religious troops will argue that we as human don’t evolve from animals and God created us. What sets us apart from animals is that we have a highly functional brain where being monogamous or not is a conscious moral choice that we can make. Hence, we should make the choice of being monogamous especially if we have tied the knot with someone else.
Pic from http://www.wnd.com
I am not here to debate about this, but what if we are not restrained by our moral obligations and religious values? Do you think that human beings are innately monogamous? Or are we just like the animals that our congenital desire is to practise polygamy instead?
Now this gets even more complicated when you are a gay. Unlike our straight counterparts, most of us are not legally bounded by a piece of paper when we decide to get hitched. Getting asked questions like “are you attached?” or “ do you have a boyfriend?” are common while it is almost nonexistence with questions like “are you married?” or “do you have a husband?”.
Gay men more likely to cheat? (pic from http://radaronline.com)
So does it mean that gay men are then more likely to cheat than straight men? According to past sexual population studies conducted, this is indeed true. So this means that gay men are more likely to have more then one sexual partner even when they are attached, especially after a few years of being together.
The next question is why in most cases we get bored of our partner sexually after some time of being attached? According to the straight marriage community, the sacrifice of being loyal to each other in both physical and mental terms is what marriage and love is all about. If it is so, does it mean that gay men love less or is it because that our definition of love is different where sex is just a physical thing while love is an emotional one instead? Maybe, it is the excuse that human beings regardless of our sexual orientation are innately polygamous? Or chasing after the forbidden fruit an adventure that is much sweeter and exciting? Is the forbidden fruit even forbidden if both partners decide to have an open relationship instead?
The forbidden fruit (pic from http://crackingtheclosetdoor.blogspot.sg)
Just like many, I used to believe in fairytale-like relationship. It was a long time ago when I was still naïve and even stupid in handling my heart affairs. I met a guy, sparks flew and within a short while, we were attached. To cut the story short, it was almost after a year when he told me that he’s attached to another guy for 5 years before he met me. I was crushed of course but I thought that I would have to accept the fact as he’s not ready to leave his partner. A few months later, my biggest nightmare dawned on me where one evening he told me that he had to leave me because his other boyfriend found out about us and he didn’t want an open relationship any more because he preferred him to me.
Open Relationship? (pic from http://www.huffingtonpost.com)
Retrospectively, through hindsight and my own experiences of dating people, I should have seen it coming. They'd been together for almost 5 years, whereas I'd been seeing him for only for a year. That was my first experience of open relationships and while it’s painful knowing that my ex boyfriend already had another boyfriend before we'd started seeing each other, it was even more painful being dumped in favour of someone else especially since I took every effort to accept an open relationship with him.
Four's a new company? (pic from http://www.outinthedesertff.org)
I started to look for answer and the more I look the more confused I was until I began to put myself in the other’s shoe. Although I still couldn’t comprehend fully why open relationships work and most probably I will not, at least I am at peace with the concept of polygamy. I am definitely more mature now and begin to accept the gay way of an open relationship. I guess that it works if you believe that giving into our sexual desire with another man is just a natural progression after having sex for some time with the same lover. We get bored after a while and we need new things to turn us on. Sex with another is just a pure physical lust thingy and should be independent of love between the partners.
Roman Orgy (pic from http://www.gringo-rio.com)
I guess if we look back to the past, the Romans too are famous not just for their empire but also their polygamous way of sexual habit where they had rampant sex without much bickering. Therefore, the answer may be something in the middle as even our human physiology seems undecided on the issue. It seems that there will always be two sides of the fence in determining what we are or how we live.
It's your choice (pic from http://reason.com)
We can be faithful and we can choose not to be. I believe that you and your partner decide what’s best in your relationship. If both decide to be monogamous then jolly well, but if after a while you guys decide to have an open relationship, then be it. As long as it works for both of you, it doesn’t matter whether you’re lovers or cheaters because the rule is up to you to make.

Monday, December 16, 2013


Guess who are the Top 5 favourites to win the Asian Muscle Bear Awards?
Pic from Jiraiya http://www.fotolog.com
Two weeks ago I posted my top thirteen Asian muscle bear from my Facebook after going through more than six thousands of my Facebook friends and followers. A big thank you to all my friends for taking time to vote for your favourites and as of today, 17 Dec 2013, I have the results for the current Top 5.

Reviewing the previous Top 13, there were a few surprises and a few misses. Jpn Kong and Dt Hiro, two of our favourite Japanese G-men porn actors faired poorly and only ranked 7th and 11th respectively. In my opinion, although they have the body and looks and most definitely manly but I guess the votes fell short because of lack of fans and support.

Another surprising elimination is Joe Yang from Taiwan, ranked only 10th, but he’s actually one of my favourites. Again, such great body coupled with a handsome face but not enough votes to get him through. Robbiesuen Oppa who has one of the best body muscularity and symmetry only faired moderately with a ranking of 9th position while Pong Lee from Thailand, the cute and handsome guy just missed out from the Top 5 with 163votes, losing only 6 votes from 黄飞鸿.

Now the competition gets more and more heated up as all the previous votes of the Top 5 will be written off and voting starts afresh again from today until the end of the year, 31 Dec 2013. But before you guys start voting, let me announce to you, your Top 5 of my Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013.
5. The 4th runner-up went to 黄飞鸿. This young and cute cub from Shanghai definitely deserved a place in the top 5 with 169 votes. I believe that his killer smile and well-proportioned body had many rooting for him.
4. Nathan Kao from Taipei was our 3rd runner up. With a sexy body and good looks, this man could really charm the fans and garnered 196 votes.

3. Third position went to our Japanese Bear Chibi Hiro. Although he’s not as big size as some of the nominees, but he made up with his cute face and small beady eyes. His current votes of 218 made him one of the favourites to reach the top.

2. Asher Wu, with 274 votes made it to the second place. This China born bear was almost the perfect bear with such a huggable body and likeable face. He had lots of fans cheering him on and could be the eventual winner.
1. Finally, the first position went to… (Drum roll) Beefrib Ben! With a whopping 352 votes, he definitely had lots of us drooling after him. To me, he too was my favourite. With his chunky upper body and big pectorals coupled with thunder thighs and monster calves, I am definitely rooting for him. In addition, he’s so achingly cute with just the right amount of facial hair. Perfection to the T!

Well there you go, your Top 5 Asian Muscle Bears. Remember the ultimate Asian muscle bear not only must have good muscularity and body proportion; he has to have the x-factor and a good looking and masculine face. I have added links to their Facebook pages so that you can view the other pictures in their site. So please vote again for your favourites so that he will come up tops in my inaugural Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013.

Voting is easy; just go to my Facebook (www.facebook.com/jimen.ian.1) and click on "Photos", then "Albums" and you can view at the "Top Five Asian Muscle Bear Awards" album. Like their pictures on my Facebook and that's it! I'll keep the voting open until end of this year, 31 December 2013 and the results will be out by Jan 2014! To the Top 5, a big congratulation to all and wish you all the best in winning this inaugural FB Asian Muscle Bear Awards! Thank you guys!

This is Jimen signing out! Be happy and happy voting! Cheers.

Monday, December 9, 2013


Pic from https://twitter.com/bitch_lifestyle
Phew! Finally I’m well again after a dreadful bout of flu last week. I am not fully recovered yet, a little cough at times, but I’m out and about doing my stuffs and back to work at least. I normally don’t fall ill very often, but when it hits me, it hits me really bad. I remember the last time I was sick enough to justify a doctor’s visit, it was 7 months ago. 
Pic from http://web.mit.edu

Remember my last post entitled My Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013, exactly a week ago? Well as you know the post was not about me per say but on my choice of top 13 most good looking Asian muscle bear and me asking you guys to vote. And if you’ve read it, you would notice that I have a disclaimer saying that this is not for any commercial gain and it’s for the fun of it. Well the story is what came after I’d posted my blog. As usual, I posted on one of the gay forums, to share my blog post to our fellow PLUs as well as to ask them to vote, just like what I did on my Facebook and Google+ account.

After two days and I remembered I was very ill and in bed at that time, an email popped up on my phone at around two in the morning. Normally I would just leave it till tomorrow and sleep through it. But that morning I just felt that I had to read it before going back to sleep. So I opened and read the email and to my  surprise, I realized that I was being reprimanded for spamming the forum. Call me naïve or silly, but in all honesty, I wasn’t even thinking when I posted the article and didn’t realise I was spamming as according to one of the moderator.
All of us make mistakes and I have no qualms when people tell me off especially if I’d made an honest mistake but if the warning becomes a snide remark, coupled with harsh and catty comments; this is where I draw the line. In short, I would have accepted my mistake gracefully and say sorry if it’s an official warning email. But this was not the case as the warning sounded more like a personal attack.
Pic from http://questorpastor.wordpress.com
I would like to think that I am a pragmatic and logical person. I try not to judge people most times but I guess being human, occasionally I do but most likely I’m not even aware of it. And hence I questioned myself: Am I reading in between the lines too much or maybe I was too sensitive instead? Maybe he was just being  a little more critical?
Pic from http://skately.com
But when does being critical become bitchy? Most of the time, it boils down to the choice of words I guess. Also bitchy remark will be judgmental coupled with some form of personal criticism. Also, the other important factor is the tonality of the pronunciation as well as and phrasing of the words. But to be fair, it is also the responsibility of the reader on how he makes out the remark.  

That made me thinking about whether is it true that gay men are especially bitchy compared to straight men.
Am I just biased and making a sweeping generalization here? Is it because living in a city, the urban environment has something to do with it? That being the minority, we are able to form groups of friends that serve as pillar of supports for our lifestyle and each other, hence the fact that being gay causes us to be defensive about our lifestyle?

Or are we really what the right-wing devotee’s logic dictates that people who embraced homosexuality have abandoned all logic and morality therefore cannot make sound judgments or even behave in a moral way?
Blame it on the Lower Testosterone? (Pic from http://io9.com)
Is it scientifically reasoned that all gay men have lower testosterone levels, which makes us bitchy, that we go through monthly period cycle like our female counterparts hence become easily irritable?

Otherwise, can it be that it is part of our defensive mechanism, which becomes a bad habit over time that we jump straight into the bitchy mode when we felt threatened?

Alternatively, maybe it’s just our nature of being gay where we behave more like women instead?
I hate you Bitch! (pic from http://www.nbcnews.com)
Conversely, could it be our rejection of women, and also our conscious decision that women are our competitors for men hence, we subconsciously behave correspondingly to our female counterparts so that we stand equal chance? By the way, I have read somewhere that straight men do subconsciously attracted to bitchy women, but that's another story altogether.
Assume is like me and you being an ASS! (pic from http://smithandjones.com)
I believe that many a time, we bitch because we assume. The assumption that the other party knowingly or purposely wanting to irritate us and not giving the benefit of doubt that it may be a sincere and an honest mistake, one that the party is sorry for and never meant to make. This dangerous road of assumption most times will lead to a verbal warfare between both parties, which may just be sparked off by something that’s so trivial in the first place. However, it can also sizzle out if the response is professional and not personal.
Pic from http://www.tripadvisor.co.uk
One other theory is that our gay community holds up no bar of a standard, which allows us to do anything we want to do. So when someone makes a mistake regardless of the sexual orientation, we, the gays just let our mind speaks freely and boldly. We call each other names because we expect everyone to operate at our level of competency and intellect. The only thing it could be is that in our alternate reality, we say whatever we want, whenever we want without weighing the consequences.

Pic from http://www.theurbanpolitico.com
Conversely, maybe it’s true that I am not being fair to the gay community, making assumption that gay men are bitchier. I believe that anyone and everyone can be bitchy, especially if we’re push to our limits, thus in spite of our sexual orientation, we can all be bitchy. The point is not to make it a habit especially at the expense of hurting someone.
Regardless of whether gays are bitchier than straights or otherwise, the important point here is not to give in to our inner demon by retaliating a bitchy remark with another. Don’t get ourselves too worked up and fall into the trap of a verbal fight. Restraining oneself doesn’t mean that we are meek and weak. In fact, on the contrary as it takes great courage and strength to rise above the occasion and accept the challenge with a calm and professional manner, rather than bitching and personal attacking. So guys, if you can, try not to bitch but reason and be a gentleman instead, cause life will be more pleasant that way and remember, we don't need to be bitchy to get our message across.
Finally, in this particular case, I accept that I made a mistake even though I didn’t realise it, but I sincerely apologise for this. So to the moderator, I will take it that this is your way of communication or maybe you’d encountered too many assholes who abused the forum and I guess probably you think that’s the best way to get your message across to them. I will not take offense at it.

Once again, I am sorry for the spamming and I promise to be more careful on my postings in the future. To my readers out there, apologies for not posting last week. I promise I’ll continue to post more interesting articles in the future. This is Jimen signing out! Be Happy and be Gracious all the time!

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Down with Flu Bug!

Sorry guys, I will not be posting this week cause I'm really ill and feeling terrible. Having a bad flu and fever. Hope that you guys will have a great weekend ahead! I'll see you guys next week. Now back to sleep zzzz

Monday, December 2, 2013

My Facebook Asian Muscle Bear Awards 2013

We have just crowned Miss Venezuela as the new Miss Universe a few weeks ago, although I felt that Miss Spain is more beautiful. Beauty pageants and manhunts are glamorous but kind of ‘shallow’ events to find the best looking among us and the best part is that we get to scrutinize the most beautiful people at the comfort of our home without any consequences. How many times have we disagreed with the outcome of such contests and wished that our favourites would win instead? Well I guess the word “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” applies religiously here cause beauty is very subjective and everyone defines it in a different way.

Last week I decided to scour more than six thousands of my Facebook friends and followers to find my top ten favourite muscle bears among them. Of course, it’s just a physical search of my eye candies, as I have not met most of my Facebook friends. Some of you may disagree with my choice, but well too bad guys cause this is my list, my list of the top ten (well, top thirteen to be exact cause I can't filter them down to ten) most good looking Asian muscle bears among my Facebook friends according to my choice.
Who's your favourite?
I have this love-hate relationship with my gorgeous Asian muscle bears. I love how almost achingly handsome they looked aka like Greek gods but I hate that I personally don’t have their good genes to have such a well balanced physique of bear perfection. It took me almost half a day to go through thousands of pictures to identify my favourite Asian muscle bears and to be honest, it’s not an easy task because there’re just too many good looking bears out there. Furthermore, they had to satisfy my certain criteria before they can be shortlisted. I finally came up with my top 13 finalists after scrutinizing them through my strict standards.

1. Muscularity and body proportion
One of the most important factors is the body size of the man. The ideal muscle bear should not be too ripped or too muscular aka bodybuilder with veins showing. Of course they have to be big in size and beefy looking, perfect for hugging and cuddling. The proportion of the entire body between the upper and lower halves has to be fantastic. The size of the pectorals must match the quads while the calves must be big enough so as not to have the chicken leg syndrome. Coupled with a strong back, arms and neck, this will determine whether he will win the coveted top spots of my list.

2. Face
This is one of my most important criteria and it will either make or break his chances of getting into top ten. Asian muscle bears with a handsome and manly face will definitely have the advantage over the regular Joe. While the face only covers less than 10% of our body, it is only but crucial to achieve a perfect looking specimen complemented with a well-proportioned body musculature.

3. Poise/X-factor
Poise is something that is intangible. You either have it or you don’t. The amazing thing about x-factor is something you can’t describe. You can only feel it when you set your eyes on the person. The added edge that adds the sparkle in wanting to look at the picture again and again. The special aura that the person evokes enhances the entire image of a good-looking masculine bear.

4. Masculinity
I like my men brute-like and masculine. They can have the most handsome face and great muscularity but my number one deal breaker will be the femininity of his looks and behaviour. Bears have to be animalistic, and they have to appear a little uncouth. Well of course there’ll be some exceptions, but overall, a bear just have to be bearish.

Now here's the top thirteen finalists:

5. Dt Hiro

10. Neil Jia

11. Pong Lee

13. 黄飞鸿

Well now it's up to you guys to help me to vote for the top three Asian muscle bears among the ones that I have shortlisted. Voting is easy; just go to my Facebook (www.facebook.com/jimen.ian.1) and click on "Photos", then "Albums" and you can view at the "Top Thirteen Asian Muscle Bear Awards" album. Like their pictures on my Facebook or you can email me your ranking of the top thirteen. It's that simple. I'll keep the voting open until end of this year, 31 December 2013 and the results will be out by Jan 2014! I know that some of you may in your opinion think that I've missed out some of the asian muscle greats but well you can still nominate them by emailing to me their Facebook profile and I may just decide to add them in this elusive list. Finally, to all the shortlisted finalists, a big congratulation to all and wish you all the best in winning this inaugural FB Asian Muscle Bear Awards!

Till the finals, this is Jimen signing out! Be happy and keep voting! Cheers

PS. Apologies to the finalists as I didn't ask permission to use your pictures and put you in the list, therefore if you feel uncomfortable to be in my list, please let me know so that I can remove you from the list. Also note that this list is not for any commercial gains and it's all in the name of fun. Thanks guys!